In my (however unqualified) opinion: how to attract girls

I’m not even going to try to generalize about this one. I’m just going to say what applies to me, as in, what I find attractive in a guy. And hopefully some girls will back me up on at least a few off them.

One thing I look at when I see a guy is his shoes. I don’t know anyone else who does this, but honestly, shoes tell a lot. Although not when guys where shoes that do not suit them...but they shoes they where on a day to day basis are fairly accurate to judge from.

I also like nerds.

But on a more serious note, there’s that whole myth about guys that are “tall, dark, and handsome.” Tall, sure, that’s a good thing, especially if you’re tall. (For me, it’s not much of an issue.) Handsome, definitely. But more on that later. Dark? What does that even mean? Brunette? Tan? Indian/black? In my mind, it means brunette, which I will say is hypothetically my favorite hair color on a guy, but that may be untrue, I don’t really know. The tall, dark and handsome thing goes with the brooding and sexy guy look, which is very attractive.

How does one define handsome? I don’t know. If you like someone enough, they are the hottest person in the world. But at first sight, you have to be medium tall to tall, have good muscles, good hair and a good face. Curly hair is adorable, but it depends on the person. I like guys who have pretty faces :] I also love eyes, because that’s where you see one’s feelings and whatnot. Color doesn’t really matter, but Duncan has nice blue eyes =) They just have to be nice-looking.

But personality is still key. If I just met a guy and I want to get to know him more, I call it being intrigued. Some people just have really intriguing personalities. I think you have to be personal, charming and smile cutely. By personal, I mean talk to the girl directly. Don’t only talk to the people around her. Talk to her. Then she’ll notice you, and she’ll know you noticed her. And obviously, I like all the clichéd qualities: funny, smart, nice. I think being able to keep a conversation is a dealbreaker. I also think you have to be playful. Make fun of the girl, and let her make fun of you back. Kind of like the way you steal your crush’s hat in fourth grade, only flirtier. Also, look into her eyes when you talk (try not to look at her boobs or something too much, please.) and listen. Guys that can be girly are good too. Like, guys that FEEL things and THINK things and BELIEVE things. These shouldn’t be girly qualities. They’re human.

I think what I’m saying is beyond friendly and fun flirting. But I kind of think the same goes for guys as for girls. Don’t be clingy, have confidence, be forward but not too forward. Same deal. It’s cute when you’re nervous or something too. Adorable.

Worst blog post ever...

So, last whenever, April and I talked about things that guys find attractive in girls, and that girls can do to make guys like them. But, what about things that guys do? Do girls have the same sort of standards and weird things that they look for as guys do?

I don’t know how to generalize about things that guys can do to get girls to like them, since I’m not a girl, but I guess I can give this a go.

So, I think that most girls like guys to be generally attractive, as in have six packs. But really, that’s a huge over generalization. Ok, how about take care of yourself and look nice. I don’t think that girls appreciate if guys look like crap, I know girls freak out about how they look a lot of the time, but they probably want their guy to be nice looking too. Or something.

This is not going to be a great post by me, heh.

So, anyway, looking nice, making sure you keep yourself groomed; whatever. I don’t know. It probably depends a lot on the girl on whether she thinks a guy looks better with facial hair or without, or with long hair or short. But, maybe the main idea is to have some sort of style of dress and look, just so that you don’t just roll out of bed every morning.

But, enough about looking nice. How about how a guy acts? Again, I really have no advice which you haven’t heard I don’t think. I mean, be yourself, and don’t make things forced. I don’t know. The rest of how personality effects attraction is I’m sure also based on personal decision really.

Ok, so in conclusion, girls are confusing and I have no idea what they actually want. My strategy is to just try things until it works or until you get in trouble and get hit. But, I don’t think that is really good advice. So, listen to April.

The Rules of Attraction: Being a Guy Magnet

I don’t think anyone believes there is a set code of rules to follow in order to become a “guy magnet,” except maybe Seventeen Magazine, whose July 2008 issue features an article about just that. According to the magazine, there are three (imo, retarded) rules to follow to be that one girl that gets all the guys.
First of all, there are always those girls who seem like they get all the guys. But do they really? Aren’t they just slutty? Or uncommitted? But I will say, there is definitely something awesome about being flirty and having lots of options :]
This week, Duncan and I have decided to make our own respective sets of rules for attracting guys. Next week (or next time we blog), we’ll make rules for attracting girls. We/I apologize for waiting, like, forever to blog again, but those crazy comments from the last post took up the better part of our blogging time. Anyway, on to the rules. These are concocted from whatever little personal experience I have as well as focus group research =)
The Rules of Attraction, as told by April:
Rule #1: Make him feel comfortable. What I mean is, just be relaxed and don’t be looking for anything. Don’t make him feel pressured to act a certain way and/or do certain things. Be easygoing and let what happens happen. Be friendly and smiley and welcoming. Be easy to talk to and easy to approach; be inviting. Sort of like, let yourself be exposed (figuratively, please) when the time comes.
Rule #2: Radiate happiness. I don’t mean smile 100% of the time or anything. But let it be known that you are having a good time and can laugh about things and smile about things. I think most guys want a girl who can laugh and find something positive in any situation. And smiles always make you look pretty, not to mention confident.
Rule #3: Be forward, a little. I don’t mean throw yourself at anyone. But sometimes, guys need more than just a little hint (not to say they’re thickheaded, but...). Haha, just kidding. Sometimes, guys like it if you are more forward. Not too forward though, in my opinion. Just don’t be shy.
Rule #4: Restrain yourself. This is probably the number one rule I live by. Don’t let yourself go overboard. Think about what you were going to do, and then take a couple steps back and STOP. THERE. This has a load of benefits. 1) You’re not going to look like a complete idiot throwing yourself at some guy. 2) It gives you time to gauge how much you really like him, if you do at all. 3) It gives you time to sit back and observe; you can figure out (or try to) if he likes you back. 4) If he does like you, it leaves him wanting more. =] Even if he doesn’t like you, you can see if he is attracted to you.

I have to say, it was very strange trying to write these. First of all, I’m not a guy. Therefore, I don’t really know what a guy would think of these rules. And also, this set of rules is a complete generalization, which is not ideal but sometimes necessary. It obviously doesn’t apply to everyone and how you use the rules, if at all, depends on who you are and who the guy is. Looking back at this, it’s not really the rules of attraction. It;s more like, how to get a guy to like you. Which is always fun, but not really the best thing to do in the long run. But I definitely believe you can make a guy like you. It’s totally possible. And it’s very fun to try :]

Things That Girls Can Do, To Make Guys Attracted to Them

So, this blog post was touched off by a 17 Magazine article about ways that girls should act and such to make guys attracted to them.

So, I guess I will attempt to make a list of things that girls can do to make guys attracted to them, or interested in them, or something like that. Of course, this list is going to be just for me, but I think that a lot of what I’m going to say can apply to many different guys.

So, the article talked about confidence, and how to look confident when talking to guys and such. And I agree with that. I think that for both guys and girls, being confident about yourself, about how you look, about how you are acting is one of those things that are attractive. Everyone likes attention as well, so the girl starting flirting or talking to the guy first is of course something that is attractive. And that is confidence too; because usually guys are supposed to approach girls, but if the girl shows the confidence to go over to the attractive guy they see they’ll break boundaries and look extra confident and sure of themselves that way.

Another thing that guys appreciate is body contact. The article also said this. But, the article talked about touching his hand and stuff. I think that body contact really depends on how it is done. Sure, hugging is one thing, but a lot of the time, hugging is just a greeting or a farewell. But subtle things like taking his hand or sitting near him. Of course, the stereotype of the guy who is too oblivious to subtly is sometimes true. Stuff like that doesn’t always work, so sometimes you have to resort to more drastic measures like…

Walking around naked. Enough said.

But really, guys do like girls showing off. And this does go with the confidence thing. But, it is something that girls can do to get noticed. Look good, show off what you have. Not necessarily in a slutty manner, but just by making yourself look good, and know how to look good. That type of stuff is important to guys. We like how girls look, and if you want a guy to approach you, you’ll probably have to look good first. This doesn’t mean that you have to spend four hours in the bathroom everyday sculpting your hair and putting make up on, but you should know how to make yourself look good, and that will help you out.

So, I think I’m repeating myself here. The point mostly is that confidence in whatever you do, works. Flirt however you want, but do it well and with confidence and you’ll have a better chance to get the guy. There isn’t any magic perfume to wear, or shoes to dance in. You have just like who and what you are and go out there and go after the guys you want just as much as they have to go after you.