Quick intro:
First, read this. And since this post is about race and religion: I'm Chinese, but my parents are not your typical strict-about-dating-and-boys Asian parents. I'm very nonreligious - I was raised without any sort of religious background, and I still don't completely understand it. So...there you go - everything you didn't need to know about me and more.
On being Asian:
As an ABC (American Born Chinese), I'm pretty white for an Asian. I may like school and math in particular, but I don't speak Chinese, I don't eat the food that much, and truthfully I don't know what "real" Asians do, so I can't even complete this list of things that I don't do.
I have always known that I will never marry an Asian guy. (When I say Asian, I'm including oriental Asians only - Indians are fair game.) I'd probably date a couple in the next ten years or so, but not seriously. This may be because I think half-Asians are the best thing ever, and obviously, me reproducing with another Asian would result in full-Asian babies. But really I'm just not attracted to them. I like all other kinds of guys - white, Jewish, Black, Indian, Hispanic, you name it.
[Let me just add half-Asians to that list. Like I said, I think they are the best thing ever. I guess this can be explained: There are Asian qualities that I like, most certainly, but there are those that I apparently do not like. The half-non-Asian part of half-Asians takes those qualities away, I suppose. Not sure.]
On interracial and interfaith dating:
While I've only dated white guys in the past, I have liked guys (or should we call them men?) of all colors and religions. Being the yellow-on-the-outside-white-on-the-inside Asian that I am, it's really not a big deal. My parents are not limiting me to only Chinese dudes (thank god) and they really couldn't care less about who I date. In terms of affluence, Asians and whites are typically on fairly equal ground, so socio-economically, there's no difference. There's no Pretty In Pink storyline anywhere. That would be a great topic for another day.
I don't think I could ever date someone who was religious, because that would be a huge part of him that I just wouldn't be able to understand.
Conclusion:
This post can be summed up like so:
- I'm Asian, but I don't like Asians. (unless they're half-Asian)
- My parents do not restrict who I can and can't date; for this, I am very thankful.
- I cannot imagine what my life would be like if they did restrict my love life (see bullet 1).
- If only because religion is a pretty big part of people's lives, I could not date someone who was very religious because I wouldn't be able to share in that big part of their life.
- I believe our other contributors can offer much better insight on this topic.
Thanks very much to Tanya and Maddy for this fabulous topic suggestion!
April is female, straight and 19 years old.
2 comments:
what about the asian fetish phenomenon? thoughts on (white) guys with yellow fever?
yay, new blog entry!
you're very welcome for the topic suggestion.
i can kind of relate to the sentiments expressed in this post, but maybe not so starkly, probably because i've never really had a plan to marry anyone or have children. but hmm, would you ever be attracted to another "banana" asian like yourself?
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