To respond to a quote from our Wall...

So, this topic has come from the one of the early wall posts on our Facebook group. The topic, or statement that April and I are going to respond to is as follows: “You can never trust a woman and everything they say has at least two or three meanings.”

So, this is like an ‘assess the validity question’ in APUSH class. Oh boy.

So, you can probably assume that the writer of this statement is a guy, and that is correct. From my experience it seems to be a very likely thought process of a guy. And so even if the guy who wrote this wasn’t completely serious about it, it still has a definite place in the blog. So, a lot of guys feel that girls are weird and hard to understand. I’d have to agree very whole heartedly with that. Now, maybe not the level of the statement where “you can never trust a woman” or that “everything they say has at least two or three meanings.” But I do see a lot of this being true.

Of course this is all from a guy’s perspective and so I don’t really know if girls just talk differently than guys do and so we just think they have secret codes for everything. But I do have to say, the way that most girls and most guys communicate, at least in my experience, is very different. Now sometimes girls will do this subconsciously, or only with other girls, and that makes this even more confusing for guys. We don’t know what’s going on anyway and then when a girl doesn’t even know she’s doing anything that is causing all this stress to the boy then that makes it even worse.

Probably a prevalent example of this is relating to our last topic, flirting. And while April and I agreed on a lot of what flirting was that doesn’t mean that girls don’t actually see it differently a lot of the time. This is why “everything they say has two meanings” can be somewhat correct. Sure they mean something, but they also mean something else, at least from a lot of my experience. Now, sure, sometimes this isn’t true. Sometimes what girls say and do accurately reflects what they feel, but a lot of the time, for whatever the reason might be they seem to defy their feelings and do things that would seem to go against what would be normal. And this doesn’t make sense to us guys. Like, why do girls complain about guys not being sensitive and stuff and then date the guys who aren’t sensitive and who are just the football players (stereotype definitely, but somewhat true).

How about, “you can never trust a woman”? Is this true? Well, I’d pretty much no. But, I do have to say, a lot of what happens that you don’t tell girls specifically is supposed to be secret isn’t kept secret. Or it’s kept secret between a couple girl friends. Now, this probably doesn’t actually happen all the time, and it’s a generalization, but I do still feel that it’s enough of truth that it can be said. And maybe this is just from girls talking more than guys, but that’s another stereotype that isn’t necessarily true.

So, this whole post is really one big generalization. But to conclude it I’ll reverse that direction by saying that I feel the statement that I’m assessing is much too vague to be true. But it definitely has its moments of veracity and in those moments are captured the confusion of guys everywhere when they try to understand girls.